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Name: Gray Cooley



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Romance scammer, claims to be a widower from Phoenix, AZ who has business in Malaysia related to oil drilling. Sends copy of online reservation on American Airlines (first-class ticket) to supposedly prove he will be flying to Kuala Lumpur.

Within 4-5 weeks he is in Malaysia and madly in love with the woman, says he wants to wait for her at the altar, hold her hand in the delivery room, sends picture of engagement ring, promises to come visit on his way back from his assignment. Never signs his e-mails, or addresses the woman by her name in writing. Starts calling and sends phone number in case the woman wants to call. Claims to never have been so much in love, the woman is his one and only soul mate. Copies love letters published in different websites.

Suddenly has an urgent need for money that is to be sent via Western Union or MoneyGram. The woman gives him money the first time, he promises to pay back, then to give back in person when he comes to visit. Then he has another emergency (oil extraction machinery stopped at Customs, for one) and needs more money. There is no end to this scamming. They are trained con artists who know all the tricks and have a 'reasonable' excuse for any and all arguments.

STAY AWAY from this jerk before he DRAINS your bank account and makes you go into debt!

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2014-03-05, 01:34:14   (updated: )
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2014-03-05, 09:29:41
BEWARE of this guy, he is a big-time scammer from Lagos, Nigeria. Has three pages on Facebook with the same cover photo.

Claims to have a daughter named Naomi, whom he supposedly raises with his mother's help. He says his wife died in a car accident. When asked to talk about the girl he says he would rather not, he feels guilty for being so far away from her.

After about three weeks from the first contact this scammer told my friend he had been mugged on the street in Kuala Lumpur and needed money to get a new passport. The money was to be sent via Moneygram in the name of another person, with an African name. She foolishly sent him US$ 1,200 then he came back saying he needed a loan to pay for his hotel. He asked for her bank info and other personal info so he could wire the money back to her as soon as he received his paycheck.

She FINALLY realised she was being scammed when he told her he wanted to be the one to hold her hand in the delivery room. PATHETIC, but I guess emotionally needy women don't pay attention to details when they read. The fact is, this guy must keep in contact with so many women at the same time that he does not screen what he writes -- 70% of his e-mails are love letters copied from the Internet.

Unfortunately, my friend -- who is 57 years old -- did not read the early signs, as for example his e-mail address NOT being from a server in the U.S. or his phone number in the U.S. NOT being from Phoenix, AZ. She did not compare his fairly well-written English (love letters copied from the Internet) with his totally broken English in e-mails that he wrote by the tens, possibly in an attempt to keep her 'hooked'.

Alerted by other people who had heard of similar cases, my friend confronted him. He admitted to being a scammer but this time it was a different story, he had truly and sincerely fallen in love with her. And he started to give her the same song and dance again, the same memorized script.

The minute she shut off communication this person(s?) called my friend's phone nonstop to the point she had to change her number. More than money, my friend lost self-esteem and peace of mind.

Here is another photo taken from the Facebook page.

2014-03-05, 09:46:25
This is the info this scammer provided to receive money in Malaysia

Bank Alliance

Account Name: Noorbaizura binti Abu bakar

Swift Code: MFBBMYKL

Account Number: 620380020097694

Address: Jalan Jeloh 3, 43000 -- Kajang, Malaysia

2014-03-05, 13:25:43   (updated: 2014-03-05, 13:40:36)
This Gray Cooley is a bandit, he wants money and can be aggressive to make his victim feel bad and do what he wants.

He writes to friends of my friends in Brasil with a love story.

He gives the e-mail and the telephone +14133401878.
2014-03-05, 16:29:39
2014-03-05, 17:49:24
Miss Marple from United States  
thank you for this submission on this scam . Scammers are very fast acting when hooking up people from FB or dating sites, as they know how to get on to people . The grooming starts immediately to get close to the victim with mails,chats and phone calls and unfortunately it is too late for many victims then . This is not one individuals work alone ,they are scamming in gangs and can in that way scam multiple victims in the same time.

Even if the scammer is detected by the victim, they will never stop the scam or ask for money ,scammers continues to scam even if they confesses that they are scammers ,they will go into round two with the victims instead.

The most important thing for your friend is to have support and understanding as the money part is not always the hard thing for the victims ,the emotional part takes an greater toll many times .Scammers are very manipulative towards their victims and using control as a systematic way to take the victims self esteem slowly away .

Can you ask your friend to post letters sent from the scammer as they are many times used in other scams and very often victims can recognize them and help them not to fall for a scam.
2014-03-05, 22:11:07
Here's one of the letters -- he never wrote my friend's name and he never signed the letters either, which I thought was very odd.


You just don't know how much I love you. You are the best that has happened in my life baby. It is you who I want to spend the rest of my life with. You just don't understand how much I adore you, appreciate you, admire you, trust you, respect you, and over all love you,I believe this is it, you are the one for me. Being away from you drives me crazy and makes me want to be with you right at this very instant. I just think of this separation as a test. I can deal with it. If this is what it takes to be with you then I will go through it.Honey, I love you more than anything in this world, and I want you to know that I will forever cherish you. Sweet heart i have a good news for you,i will be going to trip to Malaysia, wish gives me the opportunity to come and visit you in your country,so i will be coming to visit you as soon as my contract is over here at Malaysia, below is the tickle .Honey i am coming here at Malaysia for a road contract which i know by God grace i will be through before one month which will help me to see you before i go back to my city, honey as soon as i enter Malaysia i will call you so that you can have my number too.I love you so much sweet heart and will forever love and cherish you. Thanks for coming into my life, you mean the world to me.
2014-03-05, 22:16:13
Another example. This was the letter that got my friend suspicious because he mentions the delivery room and she is 57!


I am glad that finally I have found someone like you. Now that I have you here with me, I would like to let you know how happy and grateful I am for you... every night I thank God for sending you to me. I may not tell you this as often as you expect me to, but trust me, I love you with all my heart and my soul. You mean so much to me.It is you that I want to see waiting for me at the altar... it is also you that I want to hold my hand in the delivery room and it is you that I want to spend my life with. Now that we're together I promise to be always true to you, to love you and trust you. I love you more than anything this life can offer me.You made me realize that I don't need to wait for everybody's approval for anything... as long as I am happy and as long as it feels right for me. I guess destiny has lead you to me so I guess we're really meant for each other. Now I know everything's going to be okay because I have you with me now.... forever and ever.

Love always
2014-03-05, 22:27:03
Yet another letter:

Honey have I told you how much you mean to me and how much I truly love you. I am proud of your achievements and impressed by your determination and strong will. Although I don't constantly say it, I am proud to see you develop into the person you are becoming. I love you dearly and you constantly remain in my sweetest thoughts. Never doubt how much you mean to me and nevertheless how much I love you. I will remain faithfully yours until the end of time. I love you with all my heart, forever.
2014-03-05, 22:40:30
When asking for money:

Sweetheart please help me. Honey I trusted in you and you are going to do it for me in Jesus name Amen. Honey please help me you are the only hope I have and I know you can do it for me sweetheart. Honey please please see what you can do for me I really need your help. Please now you have started it and I know and have faith by God grace you are going to do it for me honey. Please sweetheart help me out from this problem my love I want to kill myself sweetheart please help me out from this problem my love please honey I really need your help my love. Please think and come up the way you are going to help me send this money honey please please sweetheart help me out, thanks so so so much my queen. i love you with all my heart.
2014-03-05, 22:52:31
Another photo from his Facebook page

2014-03-06, 14:50:11
anonymous from Brazil  
2014-04-12, 01:17:21
anonymous from United States  



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